When I got married to the love of my life, a woman nature cannot replace, I never knew she would be gone so soon. May her soul rest in peace. She died when my daughter was only three, and I was left alone to take care of her. It was hard raising her as a kid. However, it became frustrating two years ago when she reached thirteen. This is when I realized just how much a girl can be a foreigner to a father.
As much as I love and enjoy raising my lovely angel, I have to admit that it is one of the hardest tasks I have ever been assigned. Apart from the fact that raising her is hard, I also have to live with constant fear. Yes, I fear that I might fail and that something might happen to her.
However, I remain determined to be the best father who has ever lived.
Best Tips for raising my Daughter
In this journey, I have consulted my friends, professionals and fellow parents to advise me on the best ways to raise my only daughter. Through experience, I have also learned other tips on my own.
Going places with her
Just a few months before she celebrated her thirteenth birthday, she became unruly, and I was deeply disturbed. A friend told me to try taking her out, and I did. Since then, I have never stopped doing the same whenever I have time. Being together away from our busy home makes her the center of my attention. In this way, she feels loved, and this builds trust and a stronger relationship. In fact, I plan to use this tip until she grows into a full woman.
Showing interest in her friends
Apart from me, my daughter’s friends are also the center of her life. She is a social person, and she likes hanging out with friends. This worried me at first, and I somehow tried to make her stay at home. This went on until another parent within our neighborhood told me to let my daughter be. I took her advice and started to allow her to attend sleepover parties. I started showing interest in her friends, knew them and even checked their photos regularly on my daughter’s phone. This worked wonders. She became happier and more open with me.
Whenever my daughter does something good, be it at home or at school, I never fail to shower her with praise. Well, I realized I was spoiling her with a lot of praises when an expert told me that she might turn out to be a person who only does things to earn praise. So, I stooped over praising her. Nowadays, I praise her by pointing on details, and this makes her grateful and responsible.
Involving myself with school work
Whenever my daughter calls me to help her with homework, I usually respond very positively. Apart from showing her how to go about schoolwork, I also sit next to her as she studies or does her homework.
I have a young daughter whom I am raising alone. My name, Mark, is a household name in my neighborhood. I am well known because I do brag that I am the best father any daughter would love to have. When I come home from work, I sit down with her and help her through her homework. I also catch up on how her day at school was. I can confidently say that I have created quite a connection with her.
One day, my daughter tried to find out how it would feel or look to have chewing gum stuck on her hair. When it was time to remove it, she experienced one of her worst times on earth. Because I didn’t know how to remove the gum stuck in her hair without making her feel pain, I simply tried to push the gum away. But this was never going to happen. My daughter screamed at the top of her voice. You know women and hair!
She even shouted that I was killing her. This attracted a neighbor to my home. When I explained the problem to an old man who was among the neighbors, he told me to relax so he could explain to me how I should remove the gum from hair. When I tried, it worked immediately, and we were very happy. The old man further took me through some important tips for dealing with the situation. I still use the tips I learned that day, and they are very effective.
Tips that work for me
Without much ado, here are some of the best tips I still use even today.
Using ice cubes
Whenever my daughter gets her gum stuck in her hair, I simply put some ice cubes in a clean piece of soft cloth and then press it gently on the gum for about 13 minutes. This makes the chewing gum to freeze and harden. Once it has hardened, I can easily break it into pieces using my fingertips.
Oil is one of the things I use to remove chewing gum from my kid’s hair. Because of its stickiness, oil can easily break down the chewing gum’s sticky nature. I can then break down the gum easily using my fingers. And any kind of oil works for me.
Using hair sprays
Hair sprays and hair mousses can easily remove any sticky things such as chewing gums from the hair. After applying an appropriate amount of spray or mousse on the gum, I entertain my daughter for a few minutes before combing her hair.
Since I learned that I can use toothpaste to remove chewing gum stuck on my daughter’s hair, I never mind allowing her to play freely with the gum. I simply apply a small amount of toothpaste directly on the gum. I then play with my daughter until the paste dries off. I then remove the chewing gum gently from her hair using my fingers. What do I get in return? Lovely neck massage from small, soft palms.
I use alcohol
One of the most effective solutions to removing sticky chewing gum from my daughter’s hair is alcohol. With a cotton pad, I just take a little amount of alcohol and rub gently on the gum for few seconds. I then wait until the gum becomes loose before pulling it off with my fingers.